Your wedding day tends to be exactly that, your day, it’s all about the happy couple!! But it’s always a good idea to take a step back and thank all of the little people!! Not only have friends and family traveled from near and far to celebrate the happy occasion, they have shelled out lots-o-dough. Cash. Monies. You get it. On top of that, they’ve bought you presents!! PRESENTS, I say!! And here’s the thing, all you have to do is send a thank you card!! Now, writing 350 thank you cards might seem overwhelming, but alas, here is my easy guide to thank you card etiquette.
Organization rocks. Organizing who got you what can be very taxing, but my suggestion is to keep a spreadsheet of all of your guests info on your computer and as gifts arrive fill in next to their name the gift received. If you’d rather have it written down, print out the sheets and keep them on the fridge and just jot down each gift as it arrives.
Send a Handwritten Card. This means nothing electronic or printed out. Nod your head to show that you understand! I know it’s been a decade since you sent a handwritten letter, but trust me, the gift giver will be delightful upon receiving your note!! Side note. Please use your most legible handwriting, it doesn’t have to be perfect script just not undecipherable.
Personalize Each Message. Since you are so organized you know exactly what you’ve received from whom and you can easily personalize each note. The best method is to keep the notes fairly similar in format, but take the extra time to add a sentence or two that really speaks to that specific person.
Thanking for Cash. When thanking for cash, refer to the money as a generous gift and let them know exactly how you plan to use the money. They’ll appreciate hearing how they have contributed to your new life together.
Don’t Forget to Thank EVERYONE. Don’t stop at the guests. I like sending thank you cards to your vendors, especially if they did an outstanding job!! I don’t know a single person who doesn’t love hearing that they did brilliant work!! I think it’s a nice gesture.
Send in a Timely Fashion. Now there’s some debate amongst the etiquette world, but I say 3 months is the appropriate amount of time and most etiquette snobs agree. Sure, it would be best to get back from the honeymoon and get those puppies churned out in a matter of weeks, but let’s face it, we have crazy jobs, busy lives, and the transition to marriage is different for everybody. So I say 3 is best, but please don’t wait longer than 6 months because anything beyond that is just plain tacky. For reals.
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