During the planning process, there are several choices that every bride faces, and these are probably choices that your fiancé does not want to spend one more second debating with you. Here are some of the most common queries:
How many bridesmaids should I have?
You should have as many bridesmaids as you want, but remember to consider how easy or difficult your friends are to manage in large numbers. If your fiancé has a sister, then you should probably include her, seeing as you probably want your brother to be a groomsman. It’s only fair. When it comes to picking sorority sisters, you might want to limit yourself to asking your “big” and your “little” – you can’t fit your whole pledge class on the altar.
How long should I be engaged?
In terms of planning, the more time you have between your engagement and your wedding date, the easier it is. Also consider the size and extravagance of your wedding – the smaller and simpler, the less time you need. It also works to be engaged just as long as it takes you to fly to Vegas. You cannot get engaged in December, plan a 200-guest destination wedding for February, and expect to be completely satisfied with the result.
Should I wear flats or heels under my dress?
Now that embellished ballet flats are becoming more standard for brides, you do have a comfier option than heels. Consider what kind of terrain you will be walking on – if you will mostly be going from flat floors to concrete to church steps, heels are fine. If there are cobblestones or grass involved, you might want to have a pair of flats on hand. You can always wear flats to the ceremony and throw on those gorgeous blue Manolos for the reception.
Should I switch to a short dress later in the night?
Ask yourself if you will eventually get hot and sweaty at the reception in the dress you’ve picked, and if you really want to go through the trouble of taking off your clothes after the ceremony and getting dressed all over again. If you are lazy like me, the answer is always “I’ll just wear what I have on.”
Other things you should know:
Chicken is a less risky menu choice than fish.
Birds will eat the rice you throw (see previous blog post).
If one cousin is allowed to bring her five-year-old twins, all of your cousins will find out and bring theirs, too.