Thursday, October 25, 2012

Etiquette Question: Bridal Shower Etiquette

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Presents are fun, but let’s face it. The logistics of a bridal shower are not always quite so fun. I know you’re thinking, “but come on Lauren, it’s always a breeze to get a group of females most likely scattered around the country to agree on and plan something together.” Well, just in case it doesn’t work out like that here are a few tips so your shower goes off with a hitch. 

Who Throws it. The etiquette gods state that “the maid/matron of honor” and perhaps a few close friends or bridesmaids are the lucky winners. Nowadays it’s super common to have multiple bridal showers. I say try and make the cap no more than 3, and if more people want to throw you showers, you can politely suggest that a few of them group together and throw a shower together. At the end of the day, it’s what you want, but you don’t want to disrespect friends or family either. 

Who Pays. Whoever is throwing it. End of story. If the Maid of Honor takes charge unless various bridesmaids are helping plan, then she should in no way feel like those girls are responsible. If someone offers to chip in, then awesome, but sending out a mass email to the bridesmaid saying, “you all are helping me and I require 2 million dollars and your first born by sundown,” is not cool. 

Who to Invite. Good rule of thumb, unless it’s an office party, only invite people who are guests at the wedding. Can we say awkward!?!? It’s like hey... I like you enough to get a gift from you, but not enough to actually invite you to the wedding. Boo. Not acceptable. As far as the appropriate amount of guests I prefer small intimate groups 30 max, but anything goes, it’s all about personal preference. 

When. No more than 2 months before the wedding is a good rule of thumb. As the wedding approaches you and your girls are going to be very busy, so it’s best to keep at a few months out. Oh and good ole Martha Stewart suggests invites be sent out a month to six weeks in advance. Oh and this is the only time I deem it okay to include your registry information, but if you can get away with just sending people to your wedding site that’s even better. 

And hey bride, we talked about this already. Don’t forget your thank you cards. See here. We're all learning, aren’t we?!? Awesome. You’re all awesome. 


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